Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas
Successful people recognize crisis as a time for change – from lesser to greater, smaller to bigger. Edwin Louis Cole
How many of you are hearing the phrase, “Modern women” thrown out disparagingly, mostly by men, but also by women? Young women with rights and freedoms are making choices and those choices impact society.
Some believe if women had stayed out of the workforce it wouldn’t take three incomes to purchase a home. Others believe if the women weren’t more educated than the men they wouldn’t have trouble finding a suitable husband.
My son’s conversations make me think, and that’s a good thing, but YouTubers complaining about modern women make me think they are bitter and twisted because women with choices don’t have to choose them.
Choice doesn’t always give us a better life, and too much choice might make us take so long to choose, the choices we thought we had are no longer available to us. This I think is the conundrum young women face, many have so much attention when they are young they revel in that attention until it passes them by, and the prospects for a husband become slim to none.
How many materially successful and highly educated women with no husband and no children wish they weren’t so highly educated or materially successful, and had a couple of children and grandchildren to love?
My son mentioned last night that watching me with my grandson makes him think that only having two children lessoned the joy I could have had in my life, as my husband and I put other things ahead of having a big family. He also said he doesn’t believe with all that feminism has brought to my life, it isn’t better than my great-grandmother’s. He might be right, what has made my life better is the healthcare I received, so I didn’t die during childbirth.
A time of crisis is not just a time of anxiety and worry. It gives us a chance, an opportunity, to choose well or to choose badly. Desmond Tutu
So much of a woman’s life is tied up in marriage and children, and a good husband has given women over the ages a good life. Two good people getting together and making the best of what there was has made our society what it is. One of the things feminism has done is make it so women can afford to flirt and cavort with men who do not have their best interests at heart, that doesn’t lead to a better life, it just means they don’t pay as dearly for bad choices. But someone always pays the price when there is a price to be paid. Part of the lament about “Modern women” is who is paying the price.
We went from handwringing about overpopulation, and now we lament about the birth rate. Do we need a crisis to be happy? A crisis gives us something to focus on, rally the troops, and feel important. What if we are making big things out of ebbs and flows, and in the fullness of time when now becomes history, and problems we think are big problems hardly cause thought at all, we will have other crises to contemplate – maybe real ones, the ones we won’t see coming.
Faced with crisis, the man of character falls back on himself. He imposes his own stamp of action, takes responsibility for it, makes it his own. Charles De Gaulle
Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it. Hellen Keller
Every crisis has both its dangers and its opportunities. Each can spell either salvation or doom. Martin Luther King Jr.
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