Painting by Belynda Wilson Thomas
Wisdom is the right use of knowledge. Charles Spurgeon
One of the phrases being thrown about now is “High-value man,” the way some are throwing it around it mostly means money. I googled high-value person and the definition that came up: A high-value person is aware of his or her true value. High-value men and high-value women have high standards for others to live up to in order to have an intimate relationship with them because they are aware of how appealing they are. Other aspects of a high-value person include self-confidence and self-esteem.
Is high-value how we see ourselves or how someone else sees us? How I hear it being used is to justify the double standard of sexual purity for women and sexual adventuring for men. Some are even using it to justify men philandering even after marriage, but almost in all cases, the high-value woman seems to be held to a higher standard.
Some of these men talking about high-value men are quick to point out that men can elevate themselves by making money but are quick to point out they don’t value women for what they do, what they achieve, or what education they attain, those improvements only count for men. Women are judged on our youth and our beauty and I think some are even saying education is wasted on women because men don’t value educated women.
Could it be that some men are not valuing educated women and women who are accomplished because then it is harder to measure up and be considered worth dating or marriage by those women?
The men are telling each other to level up, and at the same time, it seems to me are telling the women to level down. Are they doing this so the bar the men have to hit is not as high as it would be when women are working hard to build the life they want and setting high standards for the men they are willing to date and marry?
When we presume that we are better than people who need structure and guidance, we lack one of the most crucial ingredients for change: humility. Marshall Goldsmith
High value in my opinion is not all about money, character, and self-esteem, and how we treat others is also important. Shouldn’t we all strive to be better, better than we were yesterday? We will never be the best we can be, because we won’t live that long, and isn’t that part of what makes life exciting? There is so much to learn, we can spend our life being lifetime learners. Jim Rohn tells us, “formal education will make you a living self-education will make you a fortune.” Even if our self-education doesn’t make us a fortune it can make us someone we are prouder of than we would be if we didn’t pursue learning throughout our lifetime.
What should we learn? That will depend on what we are interested in, but shouldn’t we all learn the fundamentals of life, those things that give us the good life, virtue, wisdom, knowledge, and purpose?
To acquire knowledge, one must study; but to acquire wisdom, one must observe. Marilyn vos Savant
Just as treasures are uncovered from the earth, so virtue appears from good deeds, and wisdom appears from a pure and peaceful mind. To walk safely through the maze of human life, one needs the light of wisdom and the guidance of virtue. Buddha
A man has to learn that he cannot command things, but that he can command himself, that he cannot coerce the wills of others, but that he can mold and master his own will; and things serve him who serves Truth; people seek guidance of him who is master of himself. James Allen
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